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Tuesday, September 19, 2017

No More Bullying! Are Our Schools Equipped To Address This Issue?

"Mommy, the kids in my class and on my bus say they think I am a girl and ask if I am gay."



I've had enough!  Too many times has my son come to me with a down-cast look, his shoulders slumped and near tears after hearing an onslaught of taunts from his peers throughout the day.

The definitions of bullying range from "abuse and mistreatment of someone vulnerable" to "unwanted, aggressive behavior among school aged children that involves a real or perceived power imbalance...the behavior is repeated, or has the potential to be repeated, over time."  Harassment is defined as "causing the person alarm or distress."  Teasing is defined as "to laugh at and criticize someone in a way that is either friendly and playful or cruel and unkind."  Either of these definitions can apply to what my son is experiencing and I want it to stop.

I don't think our schools are equipped to handle this issue.  At least not the school where our children currently attend.  Why do I say this?  Because the behavior continues to occur without ceasing.

This is not a discussion about sexuality or gender identity.  It is a discussion about my son feeling ostracized and targeted at a place where he spends the majority of his day.  I don't like it.

My husband and I read each of the newsletters when they come home with our children and I do not see any workshops being offered that address bullying.  The school offers themed weeks to deal with drug abuse, team spirit and even future vocation choices, but not one on how to deal with a bully or the consequences of bullying.  Our children even come home discussing the active shooter awareness sessions in which they have participated but not once have I heard about discussions dealing with bullying.

I am tired of telling my son to ignore the comments and "it's not what you are called but what you answer to."  I am sure he too is tired of hearing, "Someone is always going to have something to say about you so you have to deal with it."  Deal with it?  How?

What am I to do as a parent?  Our attempts to appeal to the school's administration on our son's behalf seem futile.  Move him to another school?  Will that truly guarantee that he will no longer experience taunting?  Am I to home-school him until he reaches a certain age?  These choices all seem as if it is my son's fault for his experience.  Or perhaps I should boycott the entire school system until the perpetrators are "brought to justice."

I know my son is not the first to have this type of experience nor will he be the last.  This fact does not lesson the aggravation, disappointment and sheer sadness I feel each time I hear my son recount his day at school.

A recent report shared on dosomething.org states that over 3.2 million students are victims of bullying each year.  There are equally stark statistics regarding how many teens attempt to take their lives due to bullying.  Bullying unaddressed manifests itself in terrible and ugly ways, even into adulthood.

Please hear my son's voice...

"I don't appreciate you calling me those names.  It feels disrespectful and hurtful.  In the Bible it says to treat others as you want to be treated.  Would you say mean things to your mom?"

Something has to change.

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Shatanese is a business owner and author of future books who resides in Atlanta, GA with her husband and their six children.  She enjoys walks on the beach and colorful sunrises.  Shatanese's goal is to find the extraordinary in every day moments.

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Wednesday, September 6, 2017

My First Day As A Business Owner!

On September 5th, I began my first day as a business owner.  Filled with excitement, I met with my first appointment of the day at 8:00 am.  As I thought about my journey to becoming a business owner, I realized I had some tips to share with others who might be venturing out on their own, or who simply are attempting to achieve a major milestone.

Don't have time to read the full blog?  Check out my video on YouTube where I share the three tips.



#1.  Make the Decision-Today, make the decision to accomplish what you are wanting to achieve.  If it is owning your own business, decide today.  If your goal is to return to school, make the decision today.  Or if you are an aspiring author, decide today that you will achieve your goal.  Once you make  up in your mind that you are going to do it, you invite positive energy to channel your way and things will begin to fall into place.  Every action thereafter will be a step closer to your dream.

#2.  Keep Your Focus-It is easy to become distracted by life and to get off track from what you want to accomplish.  Goals must be established to help you reach your dream.  I also suggest you identify some accountability partners-people who will hold you accountable to what you have set out to accomplish.  You need individuals in your corner who will call you and ask you about the task you stated you were going to tackle a week ago.  If you are a person of faith, I highly encourage you to get connected with a prayer partner.  There is nothing like covering your goals and aspirations in prayer.

#3.  Enjoy the Journey-Once you have made the decision to go after your dream and choose to remain focused, keeping track of your journey will be beneficial as well.  By deciding to become a business owner verses an employee, your mindset will undergo a major transformation.  Choosing to become an author instead of someone who dreams of writing books is a significant step.  Becoming someone who possesses a degree instead of someone who hopes to go to school one day will be a tremendous change, an important journey.  Your journey should be documented either by capturing what you are experiencing in a blog or via video snippets or by simply journaling.  Capture it!

So, today, make the decision to go for it, remain focused and enjoy your journey.  You will be glad you did!


Shatanese is a business owner and author of future books who resides in Atlanta, GA with her husband and their six children.  She enjoys walks on the beach and colorful sunrises.  Shatanese's goal is to find the extraordinary in every day moments.

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Contact shatanese@superextraordinarymom.com.

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